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Monday, March 12, 2007

Rejection Mope-jection Monday

I've had a few days to wallow in my self-pity and have had enough of Rejection reeling me into its dark web, sticking random thoughts of defeat in my mind. Funny...I've finally gained the confidence in my manuscripts to send out to publishers, and all it took was a Rejection Letter from an editor to prick a big ole hole in my newfound assurance, suck the bloody life out of it and quickly crumple it into a tiny ball to be kicked around for a bit.

So...what's a wannabe children's author gonna do? Besides mope around for a day or two or more? After a bit of thought, I decided it was time to assess whether my writing was a passing hobby or something I loved enough to accept the entire ride of the highs and lows. Am I just a casual writer? Or am I passionate about writing a good story--a true Writer?

Rejection. This tough nine letter word held me at bay and made me question what I've wanted to do ever since I was a young girl. All because of a packet in the mail. Because no matter how you slice it and dice it, when you get a self-addressed packet back in the mail, you already know it doesn't contain the greatest of news. Sigh...

Well, after a few late nights re-evaluating my rejection letter, my manuscripts and my passions, I decided it was time to blow up that tiny ball of newfound assurance into a strong, gigantic bouncing ball of hope, confidence and self-empowerment. It's time to reject the moping around, add an amazing reserve of resilience and throw in tremendous energy to work it, rework it, and then rework it some more.

I finally chose to see this personalized rejection letter as a positive thing. And am ever so grateful the editor of this imprint wrote to me. This gives me the extra push to work on this piece and research other publishers.

I find writing to be so joyful and yet it can also be intense and lonely. Nothing like feeling a bit vulnerable, writing things down and hoping someone will appreciate your special combination of words. I've decided to post encouraging thoughts on Mondays for an extra boost of confidence to start off my writing week.

What have you done to get over a slump?


Robin Brande said...

Yay! I'm so happy you've learned to keep going.

Years ago I heard something at a writers' conference that made a huge impression on me. It was a talk given by two editors, who said they often get submissions from authors who are so close to being accepted, but something about that particular piece just wasn't right. So the editors hope the author will send them something else.

"So many times," the editors said, "a writer is just on the brink of making it, but doesn't realize it. And we can only hope he or she will send us something else, rather than give up."

Wow. You forget that editors and publishers need writers as much as we need them.

So if you have the passion to write --the way you obviously do--your job is never to give up. Always do your best, keep improving as best you can, and NEVER EVER GIVE UP. Because you could be just a story submission or two away from finally getting the "yes."

Good for you, HipWriterMama, for sticking with it. What a positive post!

Erin said...

Thanks for the encouraging post!

Do you write picture books, MG, or YA fiction? Or nonfiction? Pardon my curiosity... :)

Jen Robinson said...

I agree with Robin. You shouldn't give up. I hope that blogging will help you to mitigate the lonely effects of writing, while focusing on the joyful ones. I personally look forward to reading your published work one day.

HipWriterMama said...

I am so honored with your encouragement and kind words. It makes it worth all the while. Now I really have something to look forward to--one of these years I'm going to personally send you a published book I've written.

And yes, blogging definitely helps disperse some of those lonely feelings. I am so grateful for finding a wonderful community of people who love children's books as much as I do and are willing to share of themselves and their experiences. It makes all the difference in the world.


I have written just about everything over many,many years to find my writing style, voice and comfort level of subject matter.

I've been happy with a few picture books, middle grade book and YA novel. I have a YA novel in progress that I've been really excited with--the subject matter is depressing so it tends to suck the energy out of me as I delve more into the characters. But I really love the way this book is turning out.

Thanks Erin for asking what I write...it helped me focus on my work.


My goodness. This is exactly why I love your blog so much. You are straightforward, true to yourself and completely generous with your encouragement and insight to others. Plus your blog just gets me smiling.

Thank you so much for these hopeful, encouraging words. It's exactly what I needed to hear.

By the way, I've been hearing quite a bit of great things about your new book. I can't wait to read it.

Callipygia said...

I am sorry to hear that you didn't get the news you were hoping to hear. It is neat to hear all the wonderful comments people are leaving. One of my favorite teachers taught me that mastery was about "showing up" day in and day out, not just when you feel like it. You will find your audience, and they will love what you show them.

HipWriterMama said...

Thanks Callipygia,
You're a total gem.

whimsy said...

Here are a couple quotes that lift me up when I want to quit:

"I have not failed; I’ve found 10,000 ways that won’t work." – Thomas Edison

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. ~ Thomas Edison

I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it ~Pablo Picasso

Every good and worthwhile thing stands moment by moment on the razor-edge of danger, and must be fought for~Thornton Wilder

I hope you are feeling better now. I totally know how you feel.

HipWriterMama said...

These quotes are wonderful. I am feeling so much better and ready to tackle this one again. Thank you so much.

daphne grab said...

first i want to say how glad i am that you are going to keep going!! rejection is sooo painful but it's incredibly important to not let it get you down and you are doing an awesome job of that! something that has helped me when recieving rejections is to remember that often when a story is rejected it's because it isn't a fit for a particular publisher; that it's about the publisher and what they do (and also what they already have on their list) rather than just a judgement on your piece. what isn't a fit for one house may be just what another is looking for. keep on with it- it will happen!

HipWriterMama said...

Thank you so much for these wonderful words. Your kindness is so appreciated.

daphne grab said...

i'm so happy if it was in any way helpful!! it really is true. i'm definitely looking forward to following along on your journey to finding just the right editor for your book!

HipWriterMama said...

You are soooo cool. I'm almost done with the rewrite and will send it off again, hopefully tomorrow and we'll see. Thanks for the good thoughts.